2019. Social Media Is A Tool

“Its #WorldDayofSocialJustice! Here are 5 advantages of using social media to advocate for healthy relationships and domestic violence prevention. Your voice matters. No more silence! #teendatingviolenceawarenessmonth #loveisnotcontrol https://nnedv.org/ The National Network to End Domestic Violence”

Social media can help to implement positive, social change. Social media is just a tool. A means to share your voice and what you advocate for.
No matter what political affiliation you are, no matter what your current situation is, there are others out there that would benefit from sharing messages of hope like this.
Don’t be afraid to share hope and resources… you could be saving a life.

2019. Resume Building Activities

A friend exchange:
He: I can see the resume now. Mary Mullen, House Mother.
A skilled facilitator in house management. Able to counter interpersonal conflicts amongst the stable of working women. Ability to manage appropriate schedules as well as delivering proper dietary and nutritional needs to varied mix of culinary choices from a varied ethnic mix, and stretch a food budget as needed to offer ideal choices for the women of the house.

Me: LOL… the least of me!

He: No. That’s not actually true. It’s a specific skill set. While the subject may seem offensive, it’s actually an accomplishment.

My friends are very cute, aren’t they… <3

2019. Job Seeking…

2019 – “Well, begging for an extension of time to send in an appropriate and compelling letter of interest isn’t the best way to make a good first impression… but, I’ve been so busy. I guess what is meant to be will be. Haven’t eaten all day… need food.”

Last year, I remember laboring over a cover letter to send In to the Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence when they were seeking someone to work in communications. My skill set is a good fit for an agency that has multiple member organizations, multiple websites and a mission that is near and dear to my heart. So, I sent in what I thought was a compelling letter of interest and got no reply at all.

Maybe it wasn’t meant to be. Maybe it is meant to be and it wasn’t the right time. I mean, now that I can look back in hindsight, I was still dealing with abuse at the hands of another in February of 2019. It went on for months and months after.

And the financial devastation and the housing insecurity that I’m experiencing is a ripple effect of the abuses that I endured.

If it’s Gods will, I will overcome.

2019. The Many Faces Of Eve. Or, Sybil. Whatever…

I'm always broke during the holidays.  Part of the reason is because it's an expensive business month for me.  All my annual renewals for all my work is due in December and frankly, that sucks.  So, I always feel this last minute need to push for new work at a time when NOBODY wants to work.

In preparing for that last minute 'push for work', I laughed at how damned diversified my business and personal interests are.  When I thought about it, the movie title "the many faces of Eve" came to mind.  It's a movie about multiple personality disorder.

The idea of that made me snicker more because it prompted a memory of when I was working with Gina who at the time, was running for RI General Treasurer.  I was managing the website and social media during campaign season.  I remember one time that she called me when I needed some direction and I answered the phone, "Hi, this is Sybil"... and she laughed.  "Sybil" was another movie about multiple personality disorder and wearing different hats and multitasking when needed definitely makes me feel Sybil-ish at times.

2019. Time Flies. Memories Last Forever. Happy 23rd!

For the most part, I didn't lose my talent to sugar coat thoughts before sharing.  And, I still know how to be diplomatic when the need arises.  But, different experiences throughout the years have definitely robbed me of any rose colored glasses I may have adorned in the past.

For example. this post is a facebook memory reminding me that this month is the 23rd anniversary of the Odds 'N Ends "for a cause" events.  It's always a flood of good memories when I think about that space in time.

The reason I mention that I am still good at sugar coating my thoughts it is because I almost titled this post "2019.  Time Flies.  Memories Last Until Alzheimer's."

14 years ago this month, with the help and support of HUNDREDS, Odds 'N Ends launched our first "Christmas for a Cause"!!

Dozens of "Cocktails for a Cause" were soon to follow.  I can still recite the tagline that I included on the invitations - "A unique collaboration of individuals from the social, business and nonprofit sectors who utilize their time, talents and resources to heighten public awareness and raise funds for local nonprofit organizations, all while having "Cocktails for a Cause"

Thousands of people participated in our events.  It was such a collaborative, cause-related effort and I will always be grateful to the hundreds of friends and generous businesses that I've had the opportunity to meet and work with.  I will particularly cherish each and every memory that I share with Cocktails for a Cause committee!!

Thank you to each and every one of you.  Happy Holidays!


  • 84 High Street
  • Agora @ Westin Hotel
  • AIDS Project -RI
  • Amalfi, the Village Inn
  • American Cancer Society
  • Ameriprise Financial
  • Amicus
  • Amos House
  • Association of Fundraising Professionals – RI
  • Athena's Home Novelties
  • Bonnet Shores Beach Club
  • Brain Injury Association - RI
  • Café Fresco
  • Calmar Pain Relief, LLC
  • Checkmate Printing
  • Cheeky Monkey
  • Children's Holiday Hope Fund
  • Communicating Through Love
  • Cricket's Restaurant
  • Davio's @ the Biltmore
  • East Side Chiropractic Center
  • Florentine Grille
  • Friends Way
  • Gatehouse Restaurant
  • Gina Raimondo for General Treasurer
  • Graphic Innovations
  • Grappa Restaurant
  • Grille 262
  • Kent House
  • Kirkbrae Country Club
  • Leadership RI Scholarship Fund
  • Lighthouse Inn, RI
  • L'Imag Restaurant
  • LJ's BBQ
  • Mediterraneo Restaurant
  • Meeting Street Center
  • Mia's Gift Shop
  • Miko Exotic Wear
  • Monica Barrows Wines
  • Multiple Sclerosis Society- RI
  • Nails by Jone
  • Newport Harbor Group
  • Olive's Restaurant
  • Parkside Restaurant
  • Pearl Restaurant
  • Point Magazine
  • Prevent Child Abuse RI
  • Professional Transport, Inc
  • Providence Journal Santa Fund
  • Providence Public Library
  • Pulse Fitness + Training
  • Real Estate Equities
  • ReMax Metro
  • RI Convention Center
  • RI Red Cross
  • Seaside Consulting
  • Sh-Booms Nightclub
  • Sheraton Providence Hotel
  • Smith Hill Center
  • South Kingstown Chamber of Commerce
  • Stergis Computers
  • Sunrise House
  • The Cactus Grill
  • The Deaf Comic
  • The Music School
  • The Polo Club
  • Thundermist Health Center
  • Travelers Aid Society of RI
  • Tri-Hab Substance Abuse Treatment
  • Volunteer Center of RI
  • Wes' Rib House
  • YWCA of Greater RI
  • Zito Realty

October 24

2019. Where Do Your Strengths Lie? - My top five strengths were identified to be:

  1. Adaptability - I can and have adapted to everything life has thrown my way.
  2. Communication - Communication is the key to unlock the world.
  3. Activator - When I put my mind to it, I do make things happen.
  4. Empathy - I try to understand where people come from.  Sometimes painfully so.
  5. Connectedness - There are no coincidences in life.  Everything is connected and happens for a reason.

What Do You Think Your Top Five Are?  The 34 Clifton Strengths

People especially talented in the Achiever theme have a great deal of stamina and work hard. They take great satisfaction from being busy and productive.

People especially talented in the Activator theme can make things happen by turning thoughts into action. They are often impatient.

People especially talented in the Adaptability theme prefer to “go with the flow.” They tend to be “now” people who take things as they come and discover the future one day at a time.

People especially talented in the Analytical theme search for reasons and causes. They have the ability to think about all the factors that might affect a situation.

People especially talented in the Arranger theme can organize, but they also have a flexibility that complements this ability. They like to figure out how all of the pieces and resources can be arranged for maximum productivity.

People especially talented in the Belief theme have certain core values that are unchanging. Out of these values emerges a defined purpose for their life.

People especially talented in the Command theme have presence. They can take control of a situation and make decisions.

People especially talented in the Communication theme generally find it easy to put their thoughts into words. They are good conversationalists and presenters.

People especially talented in the Competition theme measure their progress against the performance of others. They strive to win first place and revel in contests.

People especially talented in the Connectedness theme have faith in the links between all things. They believe there are few coincidences and that almost every event has a reason.

People especially talented in the Consistency theme are keenly aware of the need to treat people the same. They try to treat everyone in the world with consistency by setting up clear rules and adhering to them.

People especially talented in the Context theme enjoy thinking about the past. They understand the present by researching its history.

People especially talented in the Deliberative theme are best described by the serious care they take in making decisions or choices. They anticipate the obstacles.

People especially talented in the Developer theme recognize and cultivate the potential in others. They spot the signs of each small improvement and derive satisfaction from these improvements.

People especially talented in the Discipline theme enjoy routine and structure. Their world is best described by the order they create.

People especially talented in the Empathy theme can sense the feelings of other people by imagining themselves in others’ lives or others’ situations.

People especially talented in the Focus theme can take a direction, follow through, and make the corrections necessary to stay on track. They prioritize, then act.

People especially talented in the Futuristic theme are inspired by the future and what could be. They inspire others with their visions of the future.

People especially talented in the Harmony theme look for consensus. They don’t enjoy conflict; rather, they seek areas of agreement.

People especially talented in the Ideation theme are fascinated by ideas. They are able to find connections between seemingly disparate phenomena.

People especially talented in the Includer theme are accepting of others. They show awareness of those who feel left out, and make an effort to include them.

People especially talented in the Individualization theme are intrigued with the unique qualities of each person. They have a gift for figuring out how people who are different can work together productively.

People especially talented in the Input theme have a craving to know more. Often they like to collect and archive all kinds of information.

People especially talented in the Intellection theme are characterized by their intellectual activity. They are introspective and appreciate intellectual discussions.

People especially talented in the Learner theme have a great desire to learn and want to continuously improve. In particular, the process of learning, rather than the outcome, excites them.

People especially talented in the Maximizer theme focus on strengths as a way to stimulate personal and group excellence. They seek to transform something especially talented into something superb.

People especially talented in the Positivity theme have an enthusiasm that is contagious. They are upbeat and can get others excited about what they are going to do.

People who are especially talented in the Relator theme enjoy close relationships with others. They find deep satisfaction in working hard with friends to achieve a goal.

People especially talented in the Responsibility theme take psychological ownership of what they say they will do. They are committed to stable values such as honesty and loyalty.

People especially talented in the Restorative theme are adept at dealing with problems. They are good at figuring out what is wrong and resolving it.

People especially talented in the Self-Assurance theme feel confident in their ability to manage their own lives. They possess an inner compass that gives them confidence that their decisions are right.

People especially talented in the Significance theme want to be very important in the eyes of others. They are independent and want to be recognized.

People especially talented in the Strategic theme create alternative ways to proceed. Faced with any given scenario, they can quickly spot the relevant patterns and issues.

People especially talented in the Woo theme love the challenge of meeting new people and winning them over. They derive satisfaction from breaking the ice and making a connection with another person

2019. Presenting SOAR.

Thank You so much to everyone who came out to our Open House last night! Special thanks to Patricia of S.O.A.R. for her poignant and informative personal account of "Hidden Meanings" in abusive relationships 💜 #DVAMRhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence (RICADV)

I want to this event last night. It was held at the Elizabeth Buffum Chace Center in Warwick. They're a member agency of Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence (RICADV) and they've been going strong and expanding for 40 years now.

One of the presenters was from SOAR (Sisters Overcoming Abusive Relationships) who are a group of #DV survivors who use their experiences and voices to "promote, advocate for, and work towards the elimination of domestic violence and to embody and give visibility to the voices of abused women."

The presenter made me smile when she was telling of a time when she was telling her story of control and abuse to a counselor and her 'then' dude entered the room. The counselor asked if she's like to stop speaking and she said that she would prefer to continue. She said at that moment, she could see that dude shrink from 12 feet high to 12 inches low.

She took her power back at at that moment. She wasn't going to be silenced. It's an incredible feeling to have a voice. It's a gift from God to be able to use it well. And it's a human obligation to spread the good word when you see people doing good work.

#DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth #SoarInRI.org#CommunicatingForACause

2019. I Do Talk To Everyone.

Do you think that someone who has known me so well for a couple of decades would actually think that life could throw me so many curve balls that I would lay down and die?  Most of my friends have watched me deal with incredible hardships, survive it all and keep on keeping on with a decent attitude for the most part.

My life is full of stories waiting to be written.